Podcast #4 with Jude Miller Burke

So cool to have Jude Miller Burke on the show talking about her new book The Millionaire Mystique: How Working Women Become Wealthy – And How You Can, Too!. She talks about her research project studying self-made millionaires and tells us the common themes they shared. Jude comes from a ordinary background in Minnesota and now lives in a very upscale neighborhood outside of Phoenix. She’s overcome a number of personal issues to be the confident, professional woman (and mom) you’ll see in the video. Have a listen (or a read). On Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0vBYchlfUo On Google Plus: https://plus.google.com/u/0/b/117640653308688335454/events/chkn3ceu62am85adpv7s5gg98b4          Transcript   John: There she is dancing for us, this is John Khoury, welcome back to The John & Jani show, I am your host John Khoury, author of a new book coming out soon Quanology: Evolution & You. And with me is the lovely Jani Moon from New York City. Jani: Hello; hello: hello, hi John it’s been too long. John: It has been too long; we had some summer breaks involved with all this didn’t we. Jani is a Media Coach, she don’t want to tell you about that but she is one and she is a Jani: A single media coach John: A single media Coach Jani: In New York City John: Right, so we are back with you on today, thanks for watching again, today we got a guest, the show is all about doing cool things with cool people on the show. Hope you learn some new stuff in your life and we got Jude Miller-Burke, Doctor Jude Miller today, she is the author of...

Take the Pen – what’s it called when you don’t want them to accept?

“Indian giving” is when you give someone something and then you take it back. But what’s it called when you offer someone something but hope they refuse? People fascinate me. I fascinate me. I’ve done this too. You want to look generous but you don’t really want to give up the thing you are offering. You want the best of both worlds: to look generous, but also keep your stuff. So, yes, I made this picture to kick off a little investigation of this behavior and hopefully give it a name.  In “The Pen” episode of Seinfeld, Jerry’s dad’s friend, Jack, offers Jerry a pen. Jack loves the pen and only offers it because Jerry is talking about how much he needs a pen like that. He offers Jerry the pen, but really he hopes that Jerry will turn him down. Sometimes you give because you want someone to be happy. Sometimes you give because you want to be happy. Or maybe, these two are the same thing. Giving is a very loaded activity. It’s a shift of power. The thing you have is a resource and giving it to someone means you have lost that resource and they have gained it. Evolution made the human psyche such that the recipient should feel a certain amount of obligation. Not only that, despite that you have lost something, you have also taken the position of power. Giving in certain circumstances is, in a sense, a declaration of self-value. “I’m so good and wealthy that I can give this to you”. You can’t give what you don’t have, so givers are...

Podcast #3 with Bethany Williams

This show features Bethany Williams, executive, author, and mentor. She’s with us to talk about that uncomfortable conversation: asking for a raise. At one point Bethany found herself a single mom struggling to provide for her children. Slowly but surely, she’s built herself into a executive and part-owner of a business. She brought her own salary up to six figure and along the way developed a technique for improving your chances at getting a raise. She shares that with us today. On YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=STqc-TzPSEw On Google Hangouts: https://plus.google.com/u/0/b/117640653308688335454/events/c4fklbjg98uhgmqpt3ji7suaub4   Transcript John: This is The John and Jani Show; we are back with our third episode, thanks for being with us. I am your host John Khoury, founder of liquic.com, an online therapist directory and author of a new book Quanology: Evolution & You, hopefully coming out this fall. Okay, with me, as always, is Jani Moon. Jani: Hello; hello it’s excited to be here as always John. I am a Media Coach here in New York City and making you a star in your life and in the media. John: Yes, she is and thanks for being here Jani, so yes the show is all about cool people doing cool things , we are really excited each time so far to have some cool guests on air . We have done some interesting things and we are going to share it with you guys, how to do those interesting things and today’s’ guest is Bethany Williams. Bethany is a business executive and author, straight-out of Houston Texas; she is here to tell us how to do that uncomfortable conversation that...

Podcast #2 with Evan Carmichael

Episode #2 features Evan Carmichael: entrepreneur and YouTube sensation. One day, Evan decided to stop posting articles he didn’t really support and to start really taking his passion for business to the people. He developed his own YouTube channel where he communicates daily with thousands of people looking to become better entrepreneurs. How did Evan build up his YouTube following? Come have a look. On Google Hangouts: https://plus.google.com/117640653308688335454/posts/MbEJ1Spvzci YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GwvjwtetD1w&feature=youtu.be    The John & Jani Show #3 Transcript John: Hey, everybody welcome back to The John and Jani show episode number two, somebody dancing. I am your host John Khoury, founder of Liquic.com and author of a new book called Quanology coming out soon and with me is Jani Moon. Jani: Hello, I am calling from New York City, I am a media coach there making people stars in the media, so happy to be here, again John. John: Thanks for being with us again Jani and this show is all about cool people doing cool things. We want to show our audience how people achieve the things that they want to achieve in their lives and today, we’ve got Evan Carmichael with us from www.evancarmicheal.com, spell just like you think and he is going to show us how to build up your YouTube following. Evan has built up a nice YouTube following and hopefully he is going to take us through the steps to get that and so we are going to show you a clip of Evan, right now with one of his You Tube video, listen all in the clip Jani. Jani: roll in the clip, I...

The Gene-ish Self

Richard Dawkin’s book The Selfish Gene, and the selfish-gene theory it embraces have massive implications on human understanding. Traditional Darwinian evolution would say “survival of the fittest” implying that we’re all a bunch of selfish beings focused on our own survival. The selfish gene theory changes that. My essay The Gene-ish Self takes a look at this new perspective and puts it in the context of our lives. What does it mean to be “a gene replication machine”? How is our modern world a refection of our genetic drives? And most importantly, what can we learn from our natural drives to be able to have a better life? Below is an excerpt from The Gene-ish Self: An Essay on the True Nature of You Natural selection is not evil – in fact, it is the only good thing in the universe. There has been much confusion and abuse of natural selection as a concept and this essay hopes to set the record straight. Yes, natural selection created life on this planet, it made people out of monkeys, but it also is the driving force in our high-tech world today. Most people miss that last part. I’m here to show you that a world created by natural selection does not mean we live by the Law of the Jungle. It is not inherently selfish, but rather gene-ish. Insights into natural selection have given us not only new ways to look at biology but also at our own modern lives. What do they mean for you and how can you use that information to have a more focused life? Chapter 1:             ...

The MVA – Minimum Viable Action

Eric Reiss came up with the idea of the MVP with regards to approaching your startup’s product or service. MVP stands for Minimum Viable Product. It’s the most basic version of your product or service, developed with the least effort, that allows you to get feedback on it from your customers. The idea is, you have no idea what you are actually creating, so you want feedback as soon as possible. This provides you with quick lessons and minimizes risk. You don’t have to put in tons of time and money and hope that you’ve created the product or service that everyone wants. You build it step by step and the quick feedback you get helps ensure you stay close to what the market wants. I’ve adapted this concept to the product that is your life. We are all creating something with our lives, and that means we need to have goals and do things that lead to those goals. Sounds simple, but I have found it to be pretty tricky, especially when that goal seems far away. We humans are used to doing things for the short-term. We come from hunter gatherers whose actions were not too far away from the results they wanted. Long-term planning is not in the genes. For the individual plant or animal, the long-term takes a back seat to surviving the short-term. And so we are built. The answer is the MVA – Minimum Viable Action. With an MVA you take small steps in the direction of your goals. Do something small related to your goal each day and this will do several things for you: 1. You’ll get closer to your...

MailChimp and Popup Domination

Following the advice of self-publishing author coach, Tim Grahl, I’m focusing on developing an email list. Tim advises authors to get one of those annoying pop-ups on their site where it asks people to sign up for the email newsletter. The theory is, that though these pop-ups are annoying, they are not annoying enough to make people leave your site or really be too bothered. And the upside is just too big. That upside is getting a healthy email list that allows you to stay in touch with your potential buyers. So, cool. I did it. I bought Popup Domination and set it all up. I also set up MailChimp as the email list manager. Popup Domination  just gets people to sign up, but MailChimp manages the list and lets you actually communicate with your subscribers. I wanted the autoresponder, so I paid for it. $9 for a prepaid option did the trick. You can do it for free, but then you don’t get the autoresponder. Then it’s time to configure these two tools and get them to work together. Not all that intuitive or easy, but there are lots of videos on how to do it on both sites. And, you just test stuff until it all seems to be going OK. I can’t say I’m 100% happy with it all, but it seems to be a good first step.  ...

Using Asana as an Author

Hell yeah, this book is a project. As they say, it’s not about one book, it’s about me setting up a lifelong career as an author. And that’s actually the real project, but for now, I’m focused on making a splash with Quanology: Evolution & You. I’ve got the essay The Gene-ish Self along for the ride as a little sidekick. It was not accepted into the Amazon Kindle Singles program, so I’m making lemonade with it and using it as an additional book to be sold an Amazon. Anyway, I’ve set up an Asana account to manage all the steps a bit better. Sometimes I think half my time is spent making lists of what I have to do. I’m sure that won’t go away, but hopefully using Asana will help. So, Asana is free for teams of up to 15 people. I’m a 1 man team, so no problems there. It lets you create projects, sections, and tasks. It’s all very intuitive and I didn’t have to spend 5 seconds reading any instructions.   Being a self-publishing author means doing everything yourself. To be honest, I like it that way. But since I’m new to all this, a lot of the hard part is determining exactly what to do. For now, this looks like a solid set of tasks. I wish I could share all this with other people, and just as much wish I could see what other authors are up to. Anyway, back to...

GPR – Genetic Proliferation Rate

The most important thing about you is that you are alive. To understand yourself, you have to understand living things. One of the most fundamental things to know about living things is that they are designed to pass on their genes. All the things they do have this end goal in mind. You, dear reader, being made for The Sweet Spot, that time and place many thousands of years ago are also driven by this end goal. Genes that are the unit of replication. Genes created living things in order to make more copies of themselves. Genes that makes copies of themselves stick around and those that do not, die off. The measure of this success or failure is called the Genetic Proliferation Rate, or GPR for short. All plants and animals, and you and your friends, are designed and motivated to get your genes the highest collective GPR...

The Sweet Spot

This is where we come from. “Back to me roots”, as Ali G said. We evolve culturally and not really biologically anymore. Our biology – that is, our minds and bodies were made for a different time and place. I call that time and place The Sweet Spot – like the part of your tennis racquet that  gets the most juice out of your shot. Scientists call this The Environment of Evolutionary Adaptedness, just I’ve changed the title for obvious marketing purposes. The Sweet Spot seems to be around 50,000 years ago in Africa or Asia. This is where all humans come from. We were living there when we got the great idea to change our environment to suit our needs instead of changing ourselves to fit better into that environment. Since then we have not evolved much physically – so we are pretty much the same now as we were then. We don’t look the same, we don’t sound the same, but underneath our speech and our fancy clothes, we are the same. This is a stretch for many people. It was a stretch for me before I learned about it. I thought biological evolution was constant all the way up til now. How could we be the physically same as cavemen? This is the whole point of evolutionary psychology – to show us how our brains and bodies are the same today as they were many, many years ago. When we don’t understand ourselves, it’s because we think we were made for now. To really understand ourselves, we have to understand life in The Sweet Spot. What was it like?...