Larry David comparing lobster to Christianity

Here we see Larry David complaining about how Christians want you to be Christian too. He compare their love of Jesus to his love of lobster, and argues that he does not try to convert his friends to lobster eaters. In reality this is not true. He does want you to like lobster and I argue in Quanology that we all want people on our team, and that means we want them to like the things we like. This is how we “impregnate” people culturally, we get them to align with our cultural fancies and beliefs. In some ways, liking lobster is the same as liking Jesus, and anything you like you want other people to like. Preferably, you want them to like it and accredit you to having gotten them to like it. Jesus, or lobster, is in some way who you are and when other people like it, they take in a part of you. As cultural beings, this is subconsciously what we want. We want to put our genes in other people, and we want our ideas in their heads, running around doing things that ultimately help out our genetic lives. None of this is conscious – we don’t want to pass on our genes, we just want to have sex or raise a family. And we don’t want to make people like what we like, we just want to share something special we’ve found. It is fascinating that Larry David and Christian evangelists don’t see this going on. They see the other team doing it and think they are silly, while they themselves pretend not to want the same...

Matt Ridley’s The Red Queen

Subtitle: Sex & the Evolution of Human Nature. What’s more interesting than that? Ridley’s The Red Queen is about how much of our evolutionary development was an attempt to beat the burden of parasites. Sex is the secret weapon for all sexually reproducing organisms. Sex allowed us to create an unpredictable environment that parasites could not easily adapt to. When I take my genes and shuffle them up with my wife’s genes, we create a creature sufficiently different from both of us to stump the parasites’ ability to profit from our energy. Parasites have been a part of nature forever, and so early animals and plants gained an advantage in defending against them over the creatures who simply split in two, providing parasites the same playing field as past generations. This is the beginning of sex in evolution. Ridley takes it all farther by showing how the sex drive in all animals shapes how they behave. In Quanology, I’ve called this The Sexual Landscape. It is a set of circumstances that shape who we want to mate with and how we compete for mates. Ultimately, we see that the desire for good mates and the things we do to get them have been the forces shaping our modern society. These are fundamental, universal characteristics of humans. Men like pretty women, and women like wealthy, powerful men. Ridley argues against the behaviorists who believe that these things are taught by society. The Red Queen, as a concept, is there to explain the pendulum of evolution – that whenever an advantage is found, it creates a “hole in the market” that will...

Robert Wright’s Non-Zero

In the games we know: football, baseball, tennis, etc, one side wins and the other loses. They are zero-sum games. Is life a game? Well, you could argue that we have goals and either we get them or we don’t. But really we sort of have a smorgasbord of goals, many shared, and many people sort of on our team and sort of not on our team. And so cooperation is on the menu for us in a way that it is not for zero-sum games like sports. Robert Wright shows us how much of the progress of mankind comes from the mathematical fact that competition leads to better gene proliferation than competition. If you’ve ever wondered…ok…you’ve never wondered how game theory can explain our modern life, but really you should have thought about it. Wright sees “progress” as built into the fabric of life simply by the statistical fact that working together yields slightly better results than working against. Cooperation is an adaptation. The animals that cooperate well had a leg up on those that didn’t, and now we see wolves hunting together, lions hunting together, and the animals they hunt working together to foil their plans by encircling young ones and risking their necks by giving warning calls. In humans this has taken a steeper trajectory. Groups that cooperated well could grow larger and thereby defeat smaller groups. Much of history is about warring and conquering and cooperation was a adaptation to excel at this. He’ll take you on a fascinating ride through history to show the unstoppable tendency for cooperation. Even the nasty moments of war eventually end up creating larger...

Chappelle’s Show Crackhead sketch

“Drugs is all around you” is supposed to be a funny line but really does hit the nail on the head. In Quanology, I try to draw the line between things that help us in life and those things that hurt us. Nature intended the good things to feel good and the bad things to feel bad, but modern ingenuity has made drugs possible. We get a natural reward for doing things that are bad for us. You can consider those things to be drugs. More on that in the book! If you’re here because I mentioned this sketch in the book, then click below to watch. Lots of fun!  ...

Dating site data on mate preferences

Dating sites hold a huge wealth of information on human behavior. We may say we are this, or want to be that, but data takes our opinions out of the loop and shows us the facts. Mate preferences are a big piece of the puzzle when understanding people. What do men prefer and what do women prefer when it comes to a mate? The age of big data shows some clear trends. We can all have our own preference for a type of mate – be it blonds, older women, younger women, long hair, short hair, whatever – but large chucks of aggregated data show us that there are more universal preferences. The dating site (which I have never been to) is so kind to share their data with the world. Have a look at see what our subconscious minds are telling us. The data here is not from a survey! Our conscious minds will come up with all kinds of bullshit, but big data IS our subconscious mind and it has some interesting things to say. For one, women tend to look for men around their own age. Men, however, regardless of age, tend to search more for women in their early 20’s. If that wasn’t shallow enough, we see that attractiveness exponentially outweighs other criteria. Good looking people get far more messages on OK Cupid than their average counterparts. There is even data from a job site which shows the same searching trends by men. They look for female candidates the same way they look for female partners. What are we to conclude about this data? We’re shallow? We knew...

Emma Johnson – How to stay financially secure through a divorce

We had Emma Johnson on the show today for a very insightful half hour on marriage, money, and divorce. I think a lot of women (and men) are scared of where divorce will leave them financially and Emma has made it her mission to help women stay afloat in one of the most financially stressful times of their lives. How do you keep your head above water financially if you’re not the one earning the money? She’ll show you the steps you need to take to not only make your divorce less scary but also give you some healthy tips to keep you from getting a divorce in the first place. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=asxX_dLQDSo Google...

When your daughter has an eating disorder

Jackie Lesser is our guest on the show today to talk publicly for the first time about her struggle with her daughter’s eating disorder. It started when she was told to watch her diet to prevent acne, but as she started to lose weight, she got obsessive about everything she was eating. She would sit at the dinner table in a bad mood and be annoyed at all the things she couldn’t eat. Things got heavy when her daughter kept losing weight until she eventually had to be taken out of high school. This hits home for many of us. So many people have an eating disorder and, as with many disorders, it’s kept under wraps so you don’t even know that you know people with eating disorders. Even Jani, our lovely host, shares her moments of struggle when she was younger. Find out how Jackie did to help turn the tides and stop things going from bad to worse. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rYogFFH02Iw Google...

How to start a restaurant – Podcast #7 with Mike Maroni

Ever thought about starting your own restaurant? Who hasn’t? Well, not Jani, but John has. We have Mike Maroni on the show to tell us his restaurant story. Mike has been in the restaurant business for more than 20 years. His unique ideas provided some tough times – he said he cried himself to sleep for the first year. Eventually, things caught on and now his restaurant in Long Island is packing them in, despite having no set menu. These are the unorthodox ideas we can expect from this guy. Come have a listen or read the transcript below. And if you’ve never heard of “naked sushi”, Jani will enlighten you.   On Google Plus: https://plus.google.com/u/0/b/117640653308688335454/events/c91mvkhdavl3hskmclbgup99mkk On YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qjrc3aq8cqY       John: Hey everybody welcome back to the John and Jani Show, your back for our 7th episode, I’m your host John Khoury author of the book Quanology: Evolution & You and with me as always is Jani Moon from New York City. Jani: Media coach making you a star in your life and in the media and currently single. John: (Laughing) currently single guys, this show is about giving Jani a man (Jani Laughing) and also about teaching, it’s educating I think we’re trying to educate and entertainment them as well and today we’re going to explore a nice little subject something that’s always been on my mind. I think allot of people not Jani of course have thought about opening up a restaurant, it’s like this crazy secret world that goes on, even though we go to restaurants, it’s such a mystery to me. so how did people start restaurants...

Podcast #6 with Kaihan Krippendorf: The Way of Innovation

Today’s guest is Kaihan Krippendorp, a corporate strategist and author of 5 books. Today he talks to us about his favorite of those books: The Way of Innovation. It’s a new look at the phases of creation taken from Eastern Philosophy. Whatever you are creating, you will go through these 5 phases. We find out that I am in wood, and Jani is in metal. Google Plus: https://plus.google.com/u/0/b/117640653308688335454/events/chigvdtdhcokcs5o9ttak0fdca8 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1Qrxus0EmA   TRANSCRIPT JOHN:              Hi everybody welcome back this is the John and Jani show. Host again John Khoury author of the book Quanology: Evolution & You and with me as always is Jani Moon from New York City. JANI:                Hello, Hello I’m a Media Coach here in New York City helping you make “You a star in life and in the Media! JOHN:              There she is she has a nice book there.  Why does she have a nice book?  This show is all about cool people doing cool things and we’ve got a cool guest today he is Kaihan Krippendorff.  He is a couple of things, he is an author; he is a corporate strategist; a public speaker; he talks to companies about innovation and he’s authored four books.  But today he is “going to talk to us about one specific book that is, The Way of Innovation. We’re excited to talk to him about that.  He is merging innovation strategies with sort of eastern philosophies.  So we’re curious to talk to him about that and curious to talk to him about doing the things you love.  He’s got some great advice as well. Today’s show is brought to you by Hertog...

Podcast #5 with Chris Parker

We have Chris Parker on the show – an average (well, not so average) guy with a job, wife and kids who followed his dream of making a movie. Specifically that movie is The Right Juice, which Chris co-produced. It’s a feature film set in the Algarve in Portugal about an English banker who loses it all and decides to move to Portugal to start an orange orchard. Chris will talk to us about how he took baby steps to get there and what happens now that the movie is out! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qrTydUwbcXI   TRANSCRIPT John: Hey, this is John Khoury, I am your host for the John and Jani Show welcome back, this is episode # 5, this is the beautiful Jani Moon from New York City. Jani: Hi; hi glad to be back here, again John John: Thanks for being with me again Jani, so I am author of a new book Quanology, coming out soon, Evolution in you; Jani is a Media coach in New York City and on this show we love to take a look at really interesting people, seeing how they do cool things and share their path and progress and journey with you, our viewers to see what we can learn from it, because we all like cool things in life, and we are excited about our guest today, our guest is Chris Parker. Chris made a movie, in Portugal of all places, but it is awesome; I have seen the movie. It is a feature film, and so for me it is pretty exciting; Jani is in the media world, aren’t you girl? Jani:...